Some people don’t like being invited to weddings. They don’t like the crowd, all the customs and the wedding bands. On the other hands, a lot of us love it. It’s where you get to see some people you haven’t seen in ages, and the customs and the bands can actually be entertaining and exciting. The only dilemma most of us have when going to a wedding concerns the wedding gift. What to give? And when? How much to spend? Here is some helpful advice.
Registry’s a great thing
If you really don’t know what to get the newlyweds, the registry can save you a lot of time and trouble. Most couples pick a store and create a registry exactly for such cases. It takes away the stress of thinking whether the couple will like the present or not. If it’s listed, they’ll like it. All you have to do is go through the registry and find the present that suits you financially and simply buy it. In case you want to add something to the gift, make sure it matches the item you picked from the registry. For example, if you’re buying a set of pots, maybe you can buy a creative cookbook as well. You can also engrave the couple’s initials or names and the wedding date on your gift, since this is also a nice way to make it more personal.
Consider giving cash
It might seem a tad impersonal, but some newlyweds actually prefer cash to other kinds of gifts. The reason behind this is the fact that many of these couples have been living together for quite some time and the wedding is just the next logical step. Whether they’ll spend the money on their honeymoon, or save it to buy something expensive for their home is up to them. You just need to pick an amount of money you’re comfortable with and give it to them. The best way to do this is through personalized gift cards, which are a great alternative to giving real cash or writing a check. You can actually upload any photo and have it on the card, while the amount of money you give should always depend on how close you are with the couple and how far you can stretch. Just don’t let it worry you too much. Nobody invited you for your cash and the couple will probably be happy that you’re there, no matter what you bring as a present.
The perfect time to give your gift
This is another thing to consider carefully before the wedding itself. Although there will probably be a gift table at the reception, it might be inconvenient for the couple to deal with all the presents and to transport them home afterwards. So, if you’re buying something from the registry, check if there are any instructions left by the couple about sending the gift. They will usually tell you their preference on the wedding website, too. If there’s no such information available, by all means, feel free to call and ask them or their closest family members. It’s usually best to send your gift over to their home a short time before or even after the wedding, but since cash and gift cards are smaller and easier to handle, maybe you can give those at some point during the reception. Just make sure you don’t wait too long after the wedding to give your gift, since it could be considered rude. And because these things differ from one happy couple to another, again, the best thing you can do is simply ask and act in accordance with their wishes and plans.
The purpose of a wedding is to celebrate love and share happiness with the people you hold dear. So, be thoughtful when giving your gift, but don’t let it burden you so much that you can’t relax and have fun.
Contributed by Amelia Atkins