Anyone who’s been through the process can relate, and even those who haven’t can imagine what it’s like: wedding planning is stressful. No matter what you do, how prepared or nonchalant your approach is, it will always come with a good-sized side dish of stress. But if you’re not equipped to handle it, and if you go into planning thinking there’s “no way it’s gonna happen for you”, you are going to be knocked out by the first stress wave. So while you shouldn’t panic about it, you should be prepared, and here is how:
Learn to delegate
The first thing you have to realize is that you can’t do everything on your own. The infinite optimism, energy and motivation you feel in the beginning notwithstanding, you simply have to accept that at one point, it’s all going to be too much. The obvious thing here is that you should divide the weight with your significant other, but you should also rely on family and friends, as well as professionals. Sometimes, it’s worth the investment to hire a wedding planner and leave the stressing to them while you focus on more joyful things. However, if you are the type of person who doesn’t feel at ease giving over control of something so important, then maybe you can delegate some non-wedding-related tasks to others, and free up time to focus on that.
Relax and meditate daily
The best way you can stop stress from taking over your life is to combat it with methods that are proven to work. The easiest thing you can do is make sure you have a balanced diet with plenty of nutrients to keep you going, and that you are well hydrated. Set one day weekly or bi-weekly when you can go to a salon and get a relaxing massage, during which you should vow not to think about wedding-related stress. Activities like light exercise, yoga and pilates can also help you get rid of stress, so sign up for a class or pencil in some at-home exercise time.
Schedule everything you can
A lot of stress comes from things that you can arrange in advance, but not finalize. The goal is to be able to actually cross as many things as possible off the list. For my sister’s destination wedding in Australia, we couldn’t arrange for the flowers and décor to be set up in advance, so the stress of how everything was going to look was there until the last minute. However, a huge help was being able to arrange a bus hire to Central Coast that was reliable and could get all of our guests to the destination safely and on time. This is why splitting your to-do list into smaller timelines is good, so that you don’t fall into the trap of starting a million tasks and not completing any of them.
Not everything is going to be perfect and go exactly according to plan. That’s fine and you shouldn’t let it get you down. Going through the positive outcomes in your head more often than the negative ones will help you feel more optimistic and even be more efficient. So put a smile on your face and give yourself a pep talk, because you certainly won’t let something like a late invitation print get you down.
And through all the stress and problems, you will have your partner by your side, and it will only make your relationship stronger. In the end, it will all be worth it, and the little things that don’t match up with your vision perfectly won’t matter one bit on the big day while you’re walking down the aisle.
Contributed by Diana Smith